Stop apologising.
Apologies mean nothing when they’re said too often.
With mindfulness and meaningful intent, sorry is a powerful word, but sometimes we blindly ask for pardon upon a trigger that isn’t even our own. What we’re actually doing is pitying another’s suffering through the word “sorry” knowing deep down inside that our intentions were pure and meant no harm.
That right there is an inauthentic regret stemming from shame and fear - shame in saying what we really meant and fear in what the truth may do to our reality. I hear “sorry” used habitually by so many.
Sometimes I even hear people apologising for being themselves. Be brave enough to be unliked as a consequence of being honest with yourself and acting the best you know how.
Be prepared to walk alone as a result of honouring who you are and where you’re at in your journey. In turn, be ready to be loved and appreciated even more so for being YOU with people who can bare witness and be a part of your life without an agenda.
Be open enough to let people go when they need to. Not everyone will be able to meet you where you are and you won’t be able to meet everyone either, so stop band-aiding your world with apologies and over-compromising.
Start respecting yourself and your needs. When you’re speaking your truth, be fearless in the face of disapproval.
We’re not perfect. We all make mistakes. We say things we can’t take back. Words get misconstrued. Motives misunderstood. We hurt people even when we don’t intend on doing so - we either choose to work through that with them or leave it for them to circumnavigate without us.
Forgive yourself. Forgive, and move on. We don’t forgive because we’re lesser than another - we forgive because we’re wise enough to understand.
Acceptance is a life-altering lesson - we forgive to the degree to which we can love and receive one another as reflections of ourselves. It is the attribute of the strongest and most resilient kind, and within it, our power is given back to us three fold. Within it, apologies are made redundant and all is just as it should be.
